I Don’t Know Where My Life Is Heading

It has probably been almost a year since I’ve written on here.  This is a draft I started quite awhile ago and decided to finally finish.  I love to write. It makes me feel productive, is self healing and touches a creative side that is positive and makes me feel good.

It feels as if I’ve taken steps backwards.  I thought I had made more progress….or am I just being impatient?  Have you ever felt as if you were finally making progress in life only to wake up one day with high anxiety, feeling very down and questioning everything?  I’ve been trying to figure out why, for the past several months, I’ve been feeling this way.  What has changed?  Meditating has helped some with my anxiety but not with choosing my path.  I’m discouraged and feel as if I’m barely keeping my head above drowning.  I refuse to give in to it, although I must admit I’ve come close. I thank God for my family, my sons and sister and a couple of wonderful friends. I’m mindful to always try to find the positive in every day and daily situations but, still, I awaken to this feeling of dread. So many things have happened  in a relatively short period of time.imagesISEGTB6T

It’s  a feeling that I just haven’t been able to shake. There are many issues; not just the everyday annoyances  but big issues that seem to consume me.  It’s so hard to stay positive when you have to  make the best of a bad situation and can’t walk away….just yet anyway….and honestly probably not for quite a while.  You can’t start anew, leaving the past in the past and yet live in the same house, in a marriage that’s been long over and even that isn’t mutually agreed upon.

I feel as if I am merely a spectator and not a real participant in life… just existing. Don’t get me wrong,  I am grateful everyday to awaken and take a breath. There are others who have it much, much worse than I do.

There has to be a plan.  Something I can sink my teeth into. I need a project and a purpose and then figure a way to get there.  However, I first have to decide what it is that I’d like to do.  Something I want to do and can earn a living at.  Maybe I’ll be taking classes or starting an entry level job that will be willing to train me.  Still, I can’t do that until I’ve decided what it is I’m supposed to or want to do. I have been searching jobs for some time with no success. Sometimes I worry that at 58 I am too old. There are feelings of  frustration, anxiety,  boredom, impatience, disappointment, and I’m simply drained emotionally and mentally. Although I feel as if life is passing me by, still I wake up trying to be hopeful and continually push against the uncomfortable; almost debilitating feelings of anxiety.

Happiness would be a great place to be………..right now I’d happily settle for contentment.contentment


Full Circle and Beyond…my journey of weight-loss and quitting smoking

9359193-woman-on-weight-scale-on-isolated-background Enough was enough!  I was tired of the yo-yo I had been on for so many years.  Up a few pounds, down a few pounds…only to return.  I’m sure there are many who can relate to this circle of accomplishment and failure…achievement and defeat!  I was finally done with it!

It was 2 1/2 years ago, a year before my 54th birthday. I had finally gotten my head around it and had given myself a goal, a realistic goal, of one year.  I said to myself,  “By my 55th birthday I will be in the best shape I have ever been in”.   And so my health, fitness and weight-loss journey began.

I had cut my calorie intake by about 2/3 and started going to the gym.  I recalled how I had been eating whatever my heart desired, in recent years, now aware that most of it was eating out of boredom and emotional ups and downs.   At first I started out slowly… 3 days a week and before too long was going 4-5 days a week. Upon trying out the elliptical machine for the first time, which I’ve nicknamed the Monster, I could barely continue for one minute.  Eventually I progressed to 40 minutes!  It was slow going but every week that I got on the scale I was down by a pound. There is so much that happens in our lives  that we have no control of.  This is something that we have the ability to control. Seeing the results only motivated me to continue…and I did.  

I had told myself that when I reached my weightloss goal at the end of the year,  I would  quit smoking cigarettes. A year had flown by and I had reached my weightloss goal.  What a sense of empowerment and accomplishment!  I was amazed at just how quickly a year had rolled by.  I had to face it.  There could be no more excuses and procrastinating. It was D-day. The time had come to, once and for all,  give up cigarettes!

The first several days, and even the first week, were the hardest.  I quit cold turkey! Thinking back, it really wasn’t quite as hard as I had imagined it would be.  I continued eating healthy and going to the gym.  If I snacked a bit more I tried to choose healthy foods.  I can now say that I’ve been cigarette-free for 1-year and 9-months, just shy of two years!!  I’m proud of that huge accomplishment and can’t help but think how quickly the time has passed.

However … I have put back on almost all of those pounds I had lost.  My metabolism seems to still be at a standstill as a result of quitting cigarettes. I realize there are probably other factors contributing to this such as my age and going through the changes but,  as I think back,  I still come to the conclusion that lack of cigarettes is the main culprit.  After all, two weeks after quitting is when the weight began to return.  In doing some research about it,  I found that you burn an extra 200-250 calories a day through smoking. Still, I plan on never picking up that nasty habit again although frustration, anger and even feelings of depression  settled  in.   I’ll admit that after continuing on the healthy path and seeing the scale continually go up, I did give up on healthy eating for a month or two around the holidays.

As of January I’ve been back on the right path, returning to healthy eating habits and going back to the gym.  I think back to the feeling of empowerment I had felt during my healthy course in life and know I must draw from and remember that I CAN DO THIS!!  Although very frustrated and disappointed at the lack of any results,  I continue to trudge along on my health and weight loss journey.  Maybe a new goal of mine should be to build my stamina to the point of being able to endure  ‘the Monster’ for 40 minutes once again!

Upon leaving the gym the other day, while approaching my car, there was a car next to mine.  A gentleman who I’d seen working out beside me was standing outside of his car….smoking a cigarette.  I thought to myself, “That was me 2 years ago, voiding out the good I had done in the gym.”.  I thought back and remembered the feelings of guilt I had when doing that. As I drove home, I smiled and realized that maybe I was being too hard on myself. I had really come a long way!  I need to more fully embrace my accomplishment and its benefit to my health.

Now…..back to the treadmill for me!  Wish me luck! 🙂